When my first ever plan (post breakup), became visible I started to write my ideas down. You can’t keep everything in your head, it is not possible! Even if you are really smart I recommend you get a notebook/ your phone and start to make your own plan. When you see something you like make a note. It can be a short course, a place, a movie, or a nice shirt, anything! Also start to write down your thoughts or feelings or a good quote you have just heard. It worked so well for me. When I didn’t know what to watch or where to go I just checked my notes. I created a new account and started to send my notes there and named the subject by the group (place, film etc…). Once you have this you have to make sure you review and start to plan ahead (just like with your shopping).
Make sure that family and friends are put first in your plans. You career is important but your colleagues won’t be there for you when you are in trouble. I love working hard and provide the best quality but now I am over 30 I do appreciate that I have a life and it’s not all about work. And if you are not happy in your job you should concentrate on getting another one. You spend most of your time at work so if it’s cr*p IT WILL UPSET THE BALANCE IN YOUR WHOLE LIFE. I used to be told “don’t worry about it is just work” but did I stop worrying at 5pm? Noooooo. Couldn’t switch off. But as a clever person once said; you are NOT a tree! You are mobile and you can move. How fortunate. It’s all up to you. If you stay don’t whine. If you whine make sure you try to change what is making you whine.
I had recently handed my notice in (time for a change) and was starting to concentrate on repairing the broken pieces of me, gluing them back together. I used much stronger glue this time. I am sure I am still breakable but now that I had mended the foundation I hoped it wouldn’t be as easy.
Sport helped me in general (sorting out body first) and due to the fact that dancing was expensive I did a 30 day shred DVD – which was awesome- and I started to run too. These were all part of my first plans and since then I have never looked back.
(Author: An, edited by my lovely friend Sarah)
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